Your Time with Kim 11-19-09 no music

" Sometimes of the lone -- anything tequila you deserve it. I mean seriously someone who's standing. There -- people mental kind of."

" We'll continue time with Kim Iverson he's your girlfriend and she's here to you now. Thanks for joining me tonight so now we've heard about placenta being eaten by mothers after they give birth we've heard about. People planting trees over the placenta they put in the ground like fertilizer. We even heard last couple weeks ago or last -- is that. Hmm that man who's making Teddy bears out of the placenta. Yes when you give birth your baby. And and you have the actor -- You -- shipped off to this guy he sterilize as it and then he sews it into a Teddy bear that you could put in a glass case keep on the -- the next year so I act. -- Well now people are saying that the power placenta is real it's not just about eating it -- using -- as fertilizer are selling -- You could actually use it to heal an injury. And -- some athletes. Are flying out to areas of the world where they are using placenta to -- the placenta. 0% to juice and I. Grabbing it on the injury apparently when doctors say -- that injuries gonna take months to heal it'll heal a week. It's like that recently stuff you Thalia but whoever and -- Capriati yeah. Yeah there is sent in there I don't think -- injury to try different I didn't I didn't -- I wonder if there is I mean percent to seems to be magical. It's true it is true -- apparently. So and by the way in his article that I was reading about this whole -- the placenta on the injury they did address the that trend to eat percent to. And I guess many animals do that. After they clean up the babies they eat the placenta and its wheels give them nutrients today and make the Milton Newton more nutritious that didn't. Gives ought to -- Without. It where animals. Just wait until you had a baby you're going keep the placenta I don't know it is. It coming up next are you trying to drop the pounds if your kids your kids to CB getting in the way. Coming up next for days of --"

" Clean mom that's coming up next -- your time which might percent give or call 8889 called him I -- nothing to apologize for having a healthy sex life. Getting on the good side of his mother was like closing -- appeared anything to send. Like points on a scale these are -- days of -- time. Welcome back to bestow attention -- maxed out Mamas are you fed up with never being able to figure exercise routine into your day because you're just too busy running -- cleaning the house juggling the kids. When you are not alone fellow mom an exercise guru Kara Lynn Barnes became so overwhelmed with the continual chaos of mommy and that she was inspired to create a truly unique. It slightly off the wall program to get -- Aaland without losing your mind clean up mom. Get lean like you cleaned Caroline welcome to the show. -- Mac so how did clean and mama starts."

" That is the theory that is question Helen and it really started because after. I had gained sixty pounds with my second child where it. With my first it was only thirty and he did not want to be blessed with anyone. And I did not have the means for much help and I wanted to -- and I made with accept that'll. Real truth -- I happen elliptical machine in my house. And I would get on it for five minutes and jump off because there would be piles of laundry and masses everywhere and I couldn't deal with a can do one thing. -- completely. We -- not feeling guilty about yet articulate the end of the day I've resisted. Stuck with like. Q publisher and like ten minutes of the work out in that it would be done and I kind of developed a dig a little bit more. Complete it in terms set to make this is wild lifting my legs and I came from the dance background so I just kind of really started. Doing like about they are around my house and that kind of spiraled into what it is. Now I --"

" So you you literally. Get -- why you clean. I literally -- have to have -- and by your watching the kids and take care and I are they better bring out this."

" The biggest thing that I learned is. To really engage with my children. And I can do that from the waist step. And from the waist down I would be likely to my lead while doing coloring -- Plato. Or. You know. -- Q2 trains on the floor I would like and is projected to. Different exercises cute like multitask with the intent to that didn't have any time to go to that didn't."

" Yeah okay so now on your website clean mamma dot com. And is this like a work out routine do women did videos or is it a book or what is it."

" Well I'm just to clarify its clean my and I am -- and and -- a lot of people saying I'm not finding it looked like it but it just let you know. That -- that there's a lot of tips like it's a free blocking web site that I just -- Hit. On how to multitask and I collect captors I think because it's doing it's capped. With an exercise at the same time and I'm there's a lot of nutritional tips because. I have met my longtime best friend is have registered dietitians and it just truly an amazing woman and she created a I don't. And liquid we -- diets. But it's more like a diet for life and so all of that is pretty much it available on my web site but a have available as well is -- GDP. That is I am now out. And -- that actually gives you the ability Q instead of spreading it out throughout your day. I I teach how to combine it together and really get back up boot camp style work. And said that would really -- the difference. I -- because a lot of people can just you don't do make a list here in a lake live there if they don't have proper form and technique. And this really teaches proper form and technique as well as really giving -- the tools to -- card -- appetite worked with. Doctor Catholic -- and who really. Helped create this into a full body work out with you know heart rate up exception."

" Wow and is all Lal cleaning your house. So you can really ran into it and I'm gonna mind your -- That is really cool. That's really cool the website is clean mamma dot comments clean MON and aid dot com. Kara Lynn Barnes a woman is gonna save the day help out yeah I mean. At least you while you're cleaning that is really great. And --"

" The bottom line that I have to say is. That if you we're dealing -- sure what that hat anyway if you pay attention to your body and the way. Your uncle figure you're Tommy or I'm how are you Richard legs or whatever while you're doing this you're doing it anyway you might as well. Get the benefit like doing a hundred -- that's right -- this store anyway."

" Yeah absolutely agree thank you so much for being on the show. Ain't you don't like all right this is your time it to -- person you can get that link on my website. -- your time with -- dot com."

" Six with him Iverson welcome back to the show. If you ever were involved in pornography or you had photographs taken and Norah you Rhode made a tape. Like Kerry praised honor Pam Anderson and her and she and her Paris Hilton and the list goes on and on and on. If you had any of those kind of scandalous things in your past. And then you are went on and had a different life and you had children. And those kids got older would you sit them down and have a talk with them and tell them. You were involved. In the makings of some pornography."

" The tough one but then you how I mean this text is it out there nervous -- well everybody now as it was his commitment different."

" But to watch it like it -- so we ripped. I actually. Use that and -- don't let it. What's the appeal of making money anyway. I don't know I didn't -- Caron and he's an -- and watch it -- not pretty good. And funny. Any less from where both at -- at all."

" All. Well Pamela Anderson said that the worst part about making the sex tape that she made with her ex husband Tommy Lee. Isn't she had a -- kids about it because now her sons are twelve and eleven. And when she was in a film or act. And apparently there are some reference is I never -- that there is a reference to her and the and the found there's always references. To Tommy Lee because apparently he's huge. And there's tons and tons of references to him being. Enormous because of everyone's off from the sex tape. And so. She said that the kids at school we're going to had no about it because they're gonna see the fan home. And that they would probably approach her -- about a says she's got that she would sit down with your kids and have that top. But I don't even know what you'd say to your kids for I don't is I don't wanna know that my parents never did any change. That's so gross I don't care if my parent if my mom is Pam Anderson or my dad in his Tommy Lee. No. Known now known and now it ironic this suns knowing that Tommy Lee is really large. What makes you feel bad as a son if you did go for one why did you ever watch the tape right but. But if you found out a few friends -- like and I your daddy's. Huge you know I've ever was talking about that would not make you feel bad. On the if you earn huge well that's what I'm saying would not make you feel about it you took your mom's genetics mean -- heard -- aren't real so she's. On naturally huge in any way shape or form. I don't know how you go after that conversation with the kids and what we do what would you even say I'm maybe students text. Yeah. Now I don't know what do you think about this would you tell your kids. That you made a sex -- that you're involved in pornography. Or would you just kind of say that that's just it somethings are just. Better for them not to know about. What do you think 888925554. This is your time antivirus and."

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" If you made as scandalous tape with one of your -- would you. Tell your children about it if you knew that there is a possibility they could maybe find -- come across it or hear about it. I Angel welcome to shout I. So would you tell your kids about your secret sex tapes."

" No -- The Internet it's like telecommute did drugs in the past right just wouldn't do it. Right okay why wouldn't you."

" Well because that would realize they get I was older that it was a mistake. And that want them to not make the same mistake I did."

" Now okay. All right so what if they found out about it."

" If they found out that -- you know tell them it was mistake I made in hopefully it would make the right is it being. About not going on the same -- I did."

" Yeah and hopefully did make the decision not to accidentally watches. Right. All right thanks Angel. And I. I think I agree if I if my parents. If one of them had a sex tape I don't I don't think I'd want them to sit down and say it I certainly wouldn't want my --"

" A few years ago I made and that the money. Selling at -- and that is on the in and that and sign you -- now locked up. Maybe you might come across at -- all but I just like the knowledge that there at night you see it don't get it. Exactly how shoots it I don't get what I'm not I don't wanna have that conversation opener go like you mom that's credit union and honey the Internet. For more for profit I've got Francies -- on their parents on homemade. We know. And she. Not a case she's married and pregnant now it still. I mean I embarrassing pictures and running and screaming my parents why the pictures to show to you -- like humans we like eight you could -- no that's not. Little -- parents now you hear it Casey had eight years old. You wanna see something cool high -- your tape tied to pictures burn -- and I don't item Burton and get them out at your house. Aaron corner of smut. Right now our intern Harold and turn to that he found his uncle's sex tape and a fat like really scarred him for life in prison and a something like that I don't remember exactly it. Yeah bird act thanks for joining me this is your time antivirus and."

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" Welcome to you what time -- Kim Iverson keeps your girlfriend. Do you -- your --"

" Thanks for joining me tonight three times this week I've run into the same issue while watching TV you're reading the news. About dangerous. Children disturbed children I was watching Dr. -- two days ago they did an entire show about kids who were. Disturbed and some way and they were doing the exact just became completely scary to the parents like killing and hamsters and -- send. I'm just causing harm just because they felt like it and then I was watching criminal minds at night on CBS and it gets about like serial killers aren't. The name of the show criminal minds and there was a little boy he was like eight or nine years old he was a serial killer little boy. And when they asked him why he did it was because he felt like it and then I hear in the news. About this fifteen year old girl a list that Bustamante. She kills a little fourth grader. Digs -- grave high down. All because she wanted to know what it felt like to kill some Irish history it's that she dug the -- before she killed him she dug it First Act. She knew where was it was already ago. He will ask her why she just says. I just wanted to know what it felt like to take a life. Yeah I can live my talent that feels right won't same thing on the Dr. Phil show when I was watching the little kids that were killing animals it was they were saying. I just wanted to know what it felt like -- stomped on and -- bugs that's on the death -- I don't even do that I feel so guilty I killer bug. The only ones I don't I know and I still I do feel I feel guilty to venomous. -- even when they're attacking me and I'm not I'm sorry T you're mean to. Now. This survival when it comes about but. I have friends who -- they had a son. That that was disturbed. And he went into his little sister's bedroom really late at night when she was about six years old. And stood over her. With a weapon. And luckily she woke up and scream the parents ran and and were able to stop them from doing anything and he just that he had the urge to hurt her."

" An -- I mean they had to send him away. And then he was gone for many many airs and he ended taking his own life is just so -- and that's really good friends of mine. And it was just devastating to have to watch them go through that devastating. Two. I mean he just seemed like such a normal sweet boy he -- and and he was nice and got straight days is that they say about all Syria why don't peaks --"

" He was just so quiet and he just might sound business to me is just you know attack on the street -- and -- he was a womanizer in the BTK killer in Kansas. Creepy. I'm curious if you had a child. Now it's easy when their an adult right it's like a -- not -- crazy."

" Don't know which the united their their you don't know what they're capable of that when they're your child. And their living with him this was the biggest in my house watching the -- to show I was just like. Dodd dropped in shock thinking what in the world what I do. If my eleven year old became completely destructive. Start killing animals and then said to me -- next to Miami."

" That's what I have this one what -- patch she was yet he said when you're if I'm gonna wait for you to falsely that's what -- said it was mother. This was real little odd that I think everything on that show Israel. Annually -- what would you do -- your child if you've got your kid was kinda crazy. What would you do with them -- at 88892. Byte by -- for give or call 8889 -- leading without even trying to talk -- having your baby I know I wouldn't pay I always take it."

" Oh yeah yeah I needed you know. Drink and take you right here right now."

" you're afraid of your own child of what would you do Kelly."

" Well it seems that I wouldn't be afraid of that child threatening like that I would threaten. The this structure of his or her life style like it's a problem on accused successfully do -- kill me. In power which is survived you're not gonna ask somebody to provide isn't you're not gonna have -- I shelter. And make them think about the destruction of me would be to destruction and now. Make them afraid. And I have to stop but have they have to have some sort of a fear healthy fear of their own survival and they're in that port where there. Like it like an animal."

" Yeah I almost wish there were a programmer you could lock them up in -- for awhile like test GB out. See how that would be."

" It sounds like yeah. It's so it's not like that though is lacking discipline or structure is confident -- Arabia for attention."

" Or maybe maybe lacking some men like chemical balance or something Kelli thank you. Megan what would you do in this case -- with -- China but afraid your child."

" It. And comment by at me and and they're not anything out Harvard where he heard that from my -- highlights how probably eat them that their tight end a long list. But I don't mind -- about -- and I'm very. Well."

" Okay so I guess give them the fear of god."

" Usually April. That it."

" that double out of them thanks -- and -- Welcome to show welcome to the show so what would you do in this case if you're afraid your child's."

" Well. No not at children's charity heart eat shape but looking out for a lot perspective you have -- You read it's it's cataract LEY -- air temperature psychopath polity. Which -- here opt out and a couple -- Because they have appear they have no entity they have no emotion and things like that it's an actual duty to keep fixing security. It's just the way they aren't going to be outweigh the other thing we're starting to see in our society now aides -- increase -- sort of -- This sort psychopathic speed out to assess your topic type behavior in our kids and we're almost creepy. Kids without entity without its. Any understanding the consequences of what they do so even execute note okay actually I parent -- figure -- more support me they don't care. Kelly it's very very scary because -- you approach somebody that has no empathy or correct."

" Do we do we know why they're turning out like that."

" 1 o'clock different theories -- all the different debate how it's gonna tell you can look up to -- out without getting. Any idea whether it created expectations -- got a book called stopped teaching our kids to kill. And it's -- it's had across many do. It's like a psychologist for the military each agent that was politically -- something that any. Are forced military how to current compact and what happens to apply what happens to the -- you -- to -- eight combat. Eight in the speech yet. He's got a lot of research high. Children because all the schools here is that we're getting. Married before it chart -- colleges that there are brought up capital and out Jones Europe. And each. Eat -- a lot of between military and military media. An immediate -- out locked it's. --"

" Yeah I can I don't see that we have a lot of shows for instance the most popular shows or law and order CSI. Video games are really popular I mean there is a lot of death and gore and blood and guts and and it's just kind of there and more fascinating on television than it is anything else."

" Shockwave apps without it it's picking up like this video games is about one of the key leaders that way until I hit. He shot. And killed sport kit and shot four."

" And I can't remember exactly which want to sit in my specialty is that."

" Sort of like a top quality of -- each -- help the government why are real and what ever shot but he play it if you."

" He has -- Eight shots. Or -- or had shot all eight then it out shake our target."

" Wow talent there there's a video game came out I think this past Tuesday -- it was a call of -- video game. It was the number one selling entertainment and media. I eat some of all time it's like 530. Billion dollars just in one oh that beats movies that Arnold's name everything that meets at beat Anthony's laughs Andy. -- thanks for your call. -- Pylori. -- the you have six kids."

" I think his diet his grandchildren I have. He between Greenspan that are on the way."

" Oh my gosh congratulations. We are any of them disturbs."

" Law I have dealt with him disturbing issues enacting all -- until Tuesday that picture because they range from 28 gadget picks. And I think maybe it be you know young. And -- I would not be afraid of my child to begin at at I ever. Heard that competitive out there I didn't tell you everything out of a picture personally. I've heard that argument don't think I -- I'll take -- now. As far as I -- videogame in fact that you were talking about yeah yeah I am. It didn't against daddy and that with my -- to compliment especially if I tried concept that -- they actually stand like with ADHD steady -- Things like that it -- back at hand eye coordination is great right one. You know -- she ventured -- like around execute order that they did it. You know and and humid it just but the concept and with all my all my -- life. You know look like home they're like the debate now only began to -- it's -- you'd get. But on Putin's youth market -- it and -- I get home we suffered you know financially that I couldn't back."

" That you really paid attention -- get I think you made a really good point with you can't show them fear I think if you show them that you're afraid of them that name might be more likely to. To acts or -- feel like -- in controller have some sort of power enough like course after months of course since your fear it's gonna run gallery right exactly. Yes thank you so much for -- calling -- on this topic coming up next our -- husband cheated on her and you will not believe who -- stick around this is your time can might percent. Welcome back to the show it's your time with him iris and we have Andy on the lion and her husband. Cheated on her you will not believe who -- high Annie. So let's hear the whole story first what you are military wife right. To your husband is not which you currently."

" He is stationed out of state around for four years four years he's got yet -- party boring. Q and a -- and he can't hear -- while ago."

" Wow okay so tell us the story."

" Basically we got married in 94. We then minister Grand Junction where I met my friend's. Parents. We were friends all the time. More help for our state we have Michael Stanley stayed with her her husband cheated on her. And I was the friend that helped her through literally went over and phoned her. Late with her and help to get through an area. Not anything sicker or anything like that I have got a history that. You were best friends we remain -- Our when 9/11 hits why has been. Had Don -- Grand Junction where he. Had when that there Q and the reserve unit. And stayed with my friends at her home because I trusted both of them."

" Right -- Now how long you've been friends with her at this point."

" Well. It was ten years. It was almost let's see it's been ten years. Ten years at that time -- Earned more money had been with my has been for three years prior to getting married now. So anyway. He stayed there and that's when they have the -- Drinking here I guess she made a move by him doing. Due to the fact that she's been away from her has been for about seven years basically that desperate woman -- setting."

" Right now why are issuing from her husband because he cheated on okay so that's so you can get out she couldn't take it okay you mean that they were divorced and that. Right okay."

" He didn't leave any left with the other woman in whatever. So basically and I got her through that bill. I guess they have the will bring it would never be mentioned again and it's my understanding now and when he left for Iraq she had called and asked me for his -- Parents."

" Your husband. She called an -- for my husband -- you didn't know at this point they have the look tonight no okay don't know anything."

" So and he came home from my perhaps. Apple before he came home from might actually came to my home. She helped me hang drywall I literally ripped my entire basement -- Every law when he got extended over there she came here and I mean I. Rebuilt the walls and their might put it jets have been for Bosnian Army. Did everything possible to keep myself busy -- to support him in her right -- See. She. Came to my home and help me -- drywall. We sat and cried over a bottle wine together errant. Basically. She told me you know he really loves you -- is coming home TU and it's going to be okay. Meanwhile she's questioning me about our relationship. Didn't fact that I thought she cared about it."

" Right you know that she was having an affair."

" Little did I know it was first -- reason. --"

" So he came home from my Iraq and I felt the need to literally protect him. He asked me not to have anyone around when he came home because when they come home from there has been very step. They've been away from -- and we need to get familiar with the situation again. So I guess I -- not know when to country house. Firm finally about a month later she came -- then it seemed at the end. And she stayed with us for we. We garner dancing one night here. She met one of our friends which she was interested in she truly did not wanna see my has been -- she was gonna let the -- go in what was that yeah. Well that night. She went upstairs that our friend's house in. Being the desperate woman that she is. She was going to go to bed with whatever program well pretty two minutes but. Two minutes after. They went upstairs. She. -- my has been jumped up and he said we need to stop her from doing -- She's been drinking and she won't respect herself in the morning being a friend that I am I walked upstairs they said. C'mon honey that the -- okay we need to go. So he gave her this look on a walk at all to detract. Tonight and I remembered that look it's funny now that I look back at the things that I mean yeah hindsight. Yeah term. And she says well you know what who was stolen and he knows nothing we left we came home. He told me begin this -- he was -- he would be right there. She came here to changing get ready for that my -- shower he didn't get it. He went upstairs in and -- for perhaps England told her how much he cared about her analysts kissing her while I was --"

" In your own home. In my -- while you're there."

" While I was there and then he came -- I thought now that is how are and it said that he -- in our thinking is that to me. So that was really hard bending down the email from this woman."

" Out at any due to speed this up -- so. Because -- ran out of time here so."

" Okay if tummy in analyses fifty basically blamed her said that she did at Merrill and he told that was that needed to stop. I -- because she couldn't live with her conscience. She called to tell me that after -- slept together he did pursue her after he came home or eight."

" Now how long has this been going on. It when you're referring here Helen they've been at how many times they slept together."

" About five times. And they had -- back. And they were doing all this in which is like -- in -- matter what I -- he's simply he would tell her what he would do what he wanted to do to her and what she wanted to do --"

" Right okay. This really OK so now are you just I what is your question what you debating."

" Don't know because for that it's been over for three years I don't know. That. I can ever. Trust him again."

" Now this has been over with them for three years yes and you're still struggling. Well I didn't know about it until -- you just found out."

" This is all real feeling fresh and knowingly allow and his word to me where it would it was over 3 years ago I am still here and I. Really want you to forget about."

" Okay let's go ahead and take some calls for you -- see what people think about the situation whether or not. And he should stay here he should go or what how you should process all of this the number is 888925554. You just heard it. Andy has been had been cheating are for about a year but it happened three years ago she just found out so now what she DO. What do you think give us a call."

" And your time with Kim Iverson and we're on the line with -- and she just found out a month ago. That three years ago. Her husband had an affair with her best friend. The affair lasted for about a year and -- even instances when the affair happened and -- was home upstairs taking a shower. She needs image -- should she stay or should she go hi Candice -- on the line with Andy what's your advice."

" I paint epic I cheap by any one time and EU he apologizes and this is the one time paying. Yet maybe get forgiven if -- with a girl five different times. Talked to her over the Internet while still being with you obviously he isn't -- Ari and obviously he doesn't -- you as much because it does."

" Let's spend three years -- It's been over for three years but yeah so here."

" Right so I think you should forget about them because. I mean look at the traffic at different times while he was with you obviously -- terabyte you -- much."

" That is toughness to that work we're having a dilemma right thank Candice thank you. Think -- I just land I on the line with Andy what's your advice."

" I am in and currently that you really should leave this guy I mean if he had enough nerve to do these things like while -- there. In the top of that as a prospective so accurately."

" Jennifer what. Hi -- hi you're on any. Hi Andy hi actually I need Jennifer and I actually a public safety bill myself and I needed humor I in the military I'd been Mary -- law enforcement officer myself and I've gone through your position. So many times I've given they'll you know Mary RB. National what -- argument or. Alec unfortunately I don't says that's pretty and of course he wants to bomber -- of course he wants to forget about it because it's been three years for candidates so brushing your mind. Well I'm not gonna let him forget about it can be very hard for you but unfortunately you know you're married and each other decide. I don't write your deciding whether or not understand I -- I think immediate trial separation and which has the discipline to bracket background in the military. You can understand -- Internet if you look you you can keep your time or space to let working on -- stop because early cards he'll. What tenure in late in the dog."

" You're separated right now any. Yes he would he's in another state world actually has -- won't be home prayer you guys have been essentially separated for four years. Let me be what she means by separation is more like an emotional separation. You know what --"

" Okay our point your stop away circulate your liked the way you. Tabloid -- that I had your shot tried to him about your application and that you are quite different being on in military. But you need to live your life and just trying to put him in the back -- your -- for awhile and it is cheap you're like it's gonna change your way you look at and they don't I'm gonna put are you guys and everybody humid and were all week. And it happened and I can't tell you in the military field -- the police department and fire department we all it's very common in -- up high to portraits of any. But hey we all we look at it a bit differently and -- civilians deal and unfortunately a prepared. They happen but we're commercially tied to those people aren't we are Al. And you know immediate tablets aren't that we yes we are kind of thing happen and you opted just. -- forget and it -- special kind of person a -- someone in the military and public safety -- you know we know it's hard every -- match began to just take -- eat. And you know try to -- aren't and they can you know it's. I think parliament respecting you more. But I think you know try to stay by in the keep it and eventually becomes so I agree and you can't they'll look at any longer than just bought and BI about it."

" Thank you Jennifer that you brought up right right. A what a tough situation and am so sorry that this has happened and I mean my advice says that you can get through this if you guys both choose and do a lot of hard work. Would you recommend you get you him and the other woman by doctor Paul comment thank you so much for joining us is your time Kim Iverson --"

" My breasts -- sometimes you obviously have some -- Here's nothing -- we -- so I'm having this conversation. Welcome to your time with Kim says she's your girl and she's here -- now. Did you hear about the eleven year old who gave birth on her wedding today. That's right not only did she had a baby at eleven years old but she was getting married on the date that she was having a baby at the age of eleven years old is happening in Bulgaria this little girl. Gave birth to an eleven year old bride to be was still wearing her wedding dress and -- when she arrived at the hospital to give birth to her daughter feel Lana. She admitted that she did not know about sex education agreement how to get pregnant and she presume that she was just putting on weight from eating too many hamburger as. Until her grandmother suggested that she was pregnant. So apparently she was getting ready to marry boyfriend. Who is nineteen years old. Acts that he's sick yes. So. Apparently. It's not uncommon for big -- Bulgarian girls to become pregnant when they're in their teens. And get married because that they get married typically it over there between fourteen and seventeen years of age eleven is a bit young even took. Now it's a little yeah. Yeah sounds like her but get this in reading this whole entire article. She's not what the right now they're thinking that maybe she's the youngest person in the world to give birth. And eleven years old but there's a story of a five year old girl and her so. Giving birth to baby boy back in 1939. And I read this story. I -- five years old give me a -- Macedonia but it -- it seemed possible right at five. Well it turns out that lean and Medina. And gave birth she was. Five years old. Hands she's like five years eight months old or something. An apparent pregnant for. Question actual issues by year's eight canceled when she had a baby she was still -- averages five -- right coming up to carry it to nine months right. Yeah yes so. Apparently the baby was born he was five pounds nine ounces the girl apparently received her first menstrual period before she was one years old she had some sort and they. Disorder known as. -- he -- he has puberty. Oceans -- recently that precocious puberty every now -- purchases are aware what does it mean it means older than your years. Albania she had that. And so I guess. Because of that condition and she was able to. Have babies much earlier and they believed. This is kind of sad and it's really sad while they believe that her father was molested her and that's how she got pregnant at the age of five. And so she ended up having his baby and then he never even knew that that was his mother until he was fifteen years old and realize that. The woman who he thought was is older sister. She's only five years older than hand action with his mother. As she gave birth to a second child which was 33 years old and that's how lives to this date in Mexico. Wow yeah. Crazy high. Eleven years old have a baby Spice Girls they've added oh it's really sad. Baby should not be -- babies that -- like that thirteen year old Briton to impregnate the fifteen year old then remember that I was like how I mean as baby should not be happy. Anyway coming up are you wondering who you should tip how much you should tip. Especially in this data economy -- think about this lately and we have an expert next he's gonna tell us exactly what is appropriate this is your time Kim Iverson. Give or call 8889 called him she said it she broke up with her because she refused to have sex audition you wouldn't. I and a --"

" Your time antivirus and no one wants to seem stingy -- like an old Scrooge when it comes to tipping. He's got an -- could attempt. How much to tip what's appropriate when isn't it appropriate with us is Mary Mitchell she is the author and nationally syndicated column called me is. Demeanor she's also the author of the complete idiots guide to etiquette merry welcome -- So let's talk about tipping and thinking especially about economy -- many of us are out of money. How can we tip. Without. I I guess without seeming stingy."

" I think there -- a couple things to remember. First of and you had been fortunate enough to maintain your job. And your income. This is an opportunity to be generous not just say well everybody's been having difficult times does not get a bargain on tipping. That shouldn't be okay -- having said that. Probably the most important thing to remember is that. Right now the state economic situation really presented to -- that opportunity. To reach out and let people know. Just how much there help in their services over the past year. Have meant to us. And so that really means taking a few minutes and sitting down and writing that person and I know. That you may or may not attached list. A tip -- at malls guests. I don't think anybody argues for anybody knows it doesn't accept the fact that we're all having a rough time this here. So there are a couple things that we can do. We know we can do a group -- And sometimes they can be very meaningful and -- But this time though who should be getting. Such against right and who doesn't need to pay. For example. Does the benchmark typically by the people who helped you in your job and your life. Every day -- much and that you know that it's like the -- team are back up team."

" And we're talking about here for holiday tipping. Part of me they were talking specifically for holiday tipping that's right okay that's right."

" And we're we're talking. About people like. Housekeepers house cleaners babysitters. Personal trainers. Maintenance people. -- You know individuals to help for all the time. And that. -- yardstick for that is usually about a week's worth or. You know one. One unit. Income for. About eight months -- the Saudi years service so let's say -- my personal trainer him and you charge me fifty dollars. Every week. How well let's say I activity that I didn't you act -- And at the end of the year. I want to -- something and so I gave you a fifty dollar. Tip."

" You know that's pretty much the yards this."

" Okay right so we don't need to go over one. Unit. Whatever it is they've done for us the housekeeper if she cost a hundred dollars accompanying the house every week you get your hundred dollar gift that's okay. All right so those -- the people that we give these gifts to the people who help us and we give them about the same amount as one time for their service. Or a week's worth of their service threat that they come every day. Then there'd be different. Okay let me ask you about just general every day tipping -- we aren't a holiday season of people are tight for cash. And they're wanting to use that cash on the gifts and on these things he gets for the service industries. Well worked out about it. Who are we supposed to tip typically."

" Well campaign people that you would hit it that way not holiday season you know you tip your servers and in restaurant. You'd hit a taxi driver. You'd hit a doormen are -- you know it's it's you know."

" Is there some sort of a yardstick for -- response be tipping I'm always confused because you know at the coffee house. When I go into the restaurant and I stand at the counter and order and no one is brought anything to my table and tip jar. There seems to tip jars everywhere."

" And I think that's infuriating. To be honest with you can't. And I'm I'm not a proposes that what I do. If I go to this same coffee shop and of course. I I do mostly because I live in Seattle so there's caught up -- everywhere every five yeah. But I'll go to pretty much the same lines and you know every few times site go there. I'll drop the a dollar incidents. In just the tip jar but it and I don't -- required to to pick the people there are just so nice and so much fun to see every morning. That I enjoyed doing it."

" But what is the yardstick for who response be tipping."

" You know and they -- server. Hairdressers. Manicurist."

" And the people it that provides services all the time but let me say that having. You know if you have a relationship with someone that you -- all year long. You certainly don't have to go over and above that at the holiday."

" All right sounds great Mary thank you so much for being on the show tonight -- hello Mary Mitchell she's the author of the complete idiots guide to etiquette go to our website the Mitchell. Dot org this is your time Kim Iverson."

" Your stomach virus and thanks for joining me tonight so I wanna open up the phone lines into a secret survey. So the latest works is its secret and I can tell you what the question is because I don't want you to. Be skewed on whether or not gonna call based on what the question -- I'm only looking for men. This time just the men to call. And you'll call me I'll tell you the question really quickly. Don't be surprised when I hang up on you right after I get your answer. Dumping -- thing I just got a lot of people together. And I -- ask question may be very honest with your answer and then and we will have this very scientific data. As to what men really think about a specific. Question I have in my mind okay. Is getting a lot of fun numbers 8889255548. All the dads out there called me right after the next. Agreements we have them call 677. Minutes call me. Within seven minutes of you don't get there right now just keep trying to the next seven and I would be back this is your time -- can Iverson."

" Welcome back to the show it's your time -- percent so it's secret survey times for the latest -- says I ask you a question and and you. You answer it honestly is I was just for the men so I only want the -- to answer this question. And and you just gotta give your honest answer that's all it takes a question for tonight. When you are at the jam and use C a woman stretching. Then an armored touching -- to those in our she's -- display -- does that turn you on here are some of the answers."

" Yes yes I know yet to vote yes. Yes absolutely."

" Thank you. Again at a mix up a little -- here. When you're at the gym and you see a woman doing the abductor and the abductor that's that the machine where their legs pressed together on their legs goes spreading apart. Does that turn you on."

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" They have violated if you're at the jet you're stretching -- you do an abductor abductor just know. If the men are looking it's turning them on what was the percentage act pretty overwhelming 14%. Undecided. 21%. No. 64%. Yes okay say that you can pretty much just safely assume that you are turning on all the guys and you don't wanna do that and save those exercises for that I'm master when you get home yeah yeah. -- article today this is what's fondness for me this woman writes she writes I spotted the hottest guy at the gym yesterday I bet you he was a model I saw him when I was done with my run. And was walking the gauntlet of -- mouse. He was jogging on one of the machines and we made eye contact. I went over to a railing and put my foot up and bent over semi rich my wrist reached past my toes. Then I slid my foot down the rail so it looked like I was doing the splits it's a great stretch while. She says treadmill guide got off the machine walked past me and we made eye contact. Any went down the stairs and turned back to look at me. Yeah she says I the only one who blatantly stretches like this. So she says that she and this is a flirting move. That she uses. Stated that her flexibility. App that -- to turn guys on casinos that -- are thinking doesn't really work. I don't think everyone can pull it off like if I was at the -- it's obvious I met him to lose weight not to maintain. I think people who -- actually lose and not maintain can pull off Jim flirting better than people like me you could -- I could not except I'm not flexible so I couldn't I do you like reaching got -- just might they do like that for girls. It wouldn't be sexy at all it's not the actual like flexibility. It's about. How you do it it's about you know insults treatments and how use lake. Just reminding me yeah not like you're doing remind me of legally blonde. When the woman was teaching Reese Witherspoon had to then there's like abandoned -- Out of ended up into the the men what is your backside so to bend over the pencil and snap back up lots stretching I mean if you distraction on the character any thing. They think that that's hottest thing as your boobs -- stick it out when you're stretching with your arms been. It's -- I've got an amazing sex just after 1 you know evening stretches out there stretching lassie isn't a guy like so hot for you right now is just so strange to me it's all about the moves it's because it's -- sensual thing your bodies moving him there's sensual way he had the guys stretches that doesn't nothing for me nothing for me all agree on -- stuff while allowing that is it just seems I don't know -- yeah. I don't know anyway. There you have it stretching turns them on now go do it it's your time antivirus and."